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When He Doesn’t Make Time For You

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Let’s say you’re seeing a guy. He’s cute, funny, and would make a perfect boyfriend. You want to make this work, but there’s one problem: it’s hard to get together because he’s always busy.

Women ask:  “What should I do?”

My response is always the same: “How does he make you feel?”

Ok, I’m not a therapist but this is simple. If he doesn’t make you feel good – then something is wrong!

But you like him, and make excuses:
“He has a demanding job.”
“He has lots of friends.”
“He has kids.”

Most guys are busy: you probably wouldn’t want to date those who aren’t. But if they’re truly interested in building a relationship with you, they’ll carve out the time or at least will let you know that you’re still important. A busy guy who cares will always make you feel like you matter – you may be disappointed sometimes, but you should never feel bad.

If looking at your phone just makes you feel rejected, it’s because your guy is acting like a turd-bird and it’s time to kick him out of the nest. At the very least, start seeing other guys! Simply tell “Mr. Busy” that this doesn’t feel good anymore and until he can make time for you, you are going to date other people. Don’t feel bad – you are not giving him an ultimatum, you are simply being authentic to what YOU need in a healthy relationship.

Staying with a guy that doesn’t appreciate you will diminish your confidence. CCG’s (Confident Curvy Girls) know that they are a catch and that any guy will be lucky to spend time with them. Take my word for it, ladies, if your guy isn’t making you feel good, stand up for yourself and say “NEXT”!

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